You were never meant to carry it all. Here’s what to do when you lose hope in a heavy world….
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You were meant to do more than just “get by”. Here are 4 ways to help you reclaim your energy and yourself in seasons when it feels like life is falling apart.
4 Ways to Reignite Your Hope
There’s no denying that the world feels heavy right now.
With every scroll, click, and headline, it’s easy to believe that hopelessness is the only reasonable response.
If you are a woman—especially a woman of color—this heaviness can feel even more intense. Our rights, our voices, our safety, our dreams, they all seem to be under constant attack. And while awareness matters, what matters more is that you don’t drown in it all. Here are a few simple ways to prioritize your mental health and keep from losing hope:
Turn off the News
Let me say this clearly: you were never meant to carry it all. You were never meant to know all the things. This constant stream of news we have access to is not healthy.
Yes, be informed. Yes, use your voice. But don’t confuse staying aware with sacrificing your sanity to the 24/7 news cycle.
I choose 1 or 2 trusted news outlets to tune into and ignore the rest. On the days I am already dealing with too much, I don’t look at the news at all. I know that I need to keep my head clear so that I can focus on my family, my clients, my real life relationships.
That is how I protect my peace so that I can show up as my best self for the people around me. The world needs you whole too. Not broken. Not burnt out. Whole. You have to protect your mind to keep yourself intact.
Protect Your Focus
We live in a time where chaos is loud and the truth is often buried beneath fear and noise. But your peace? Your hope? Your joy? That is revolutionary. That is where your power lives. They cannot break you.
Reclaiming your attention is reclaiming your power. Just because it is loud and in your face doesn’t mean you have to give it your attention. You can choose what deserves your focus.
This is a mindset skill you can and should work on. It is worth the investment and the time.
In some ways the world wants you to lose hope because then you are easier to control. It is harder to fight back when you are hopeless. It is harder to stand up for your boundaries when you are hopeless.
The world wants your distracted and hopeless attention. It craves it. It feeds on it. But your attention is sacred. Where your focus goes, your energy flows. Gently, intentionally redirect your focus just a little each day, to something no one can take from you: your inner power.
Embrace Your Truth
Make time for things that bring you joy, that empower you, that fill you up.
Hope is not naivety. It’s a strategy.
Beauty is not frivolous. It’s fuel.
Write. Paint. Plant. Dance. Do things that remind you you are alive and you are powerful.
Create beauty by being truly, fully you.
We don’t have to change the world overnight. You change the world every time you choose joy when it is so easy to be bitter.
If you start to feel overwhelmed, take a deep breath. Hold it. Unclench you jaw and your hands. Point your head to the sky.
Exhale and affirm these words:
I choose joy…
I choose me…
Today I am taking care of me, my heart, my spirit, and my mind.
That is resistance. That is courage. That is how you infuse your mind and body with hope when the hopelessness starts to creep in.
Find Your People
Community is not extra. It’s everything. There is beauty in the way you support your sisters.
In how you mother your children.
In how you mentor someone else.
There is beauty in how you show up as a kind soul in a cruel world. That quiet beauty is not only how we keep going, it’s also how we heal.
You are not alone. There are so many people just like you who are also asking that same questions. There are millions of us. We may be tired, but we are far from defeated. We may be anxious, but we are still speaking up. We are here. And when we work together to create spaces of rest, creativity, and compassion we become unstoppable.
Find your people. Build that table. Cry together. Laugh louder. Dream bigger.
Hope and Your Mental Health
The messages that come to mind every time you see a news story, when you feel scared about the future, or when you aren’t sure where to turn–those messages aren’t all there is.
Hopelessness is a liar.
There is more. This is a season. You can and will get through it.
You were born with power. That power never left you. It is still here. Cling to it. That is how you hold on to hope.
The world may be loud and uncertain, but you don’t have to be.
You can be still.
You can be soft.
You can be strong.
You can be hope.
And in doing so, you become exactly what this world needs: a woman rooted in her power, refusing to let the chaos steal her light.
If you are ready to breathe again, take a moment to download your copy of “In the Meantime: Hope, Healing, and Survival for the Tired Heart”.
It will be there to pick you up when you fall and help you find your way through this fog we are living in. Life is a pendulum. Things will swing back. But you, you are the continuation. You deserve to do more than just get by during this season. You can thrive.